4th Of July BBQ Tips

sparkleHappy 4th of July Gorgeous (Yep, I’m talkin to you!).

This red, white and blue holiday brings out the best BBQ food, pool parties and sexy babes. Now, before you start poppin off those fireworks, let’s go over all the do’s and don’ts to make sure your Independence Day goes off with a bang!!

Transparent#1.) Do Create An Americana Inspired Outfit

Since we are celebrating the US of A, I think every girl should show some type of tribute to our lovely country. The key is to not go all “Betsy Ross” on us but to show off the American flag colors (and stars!) in a fashionable way. Whether it is a cool accessory, vintage tank or kick ass leggings – bust out your patriotism with a good sense of style. PS. I found this oversized tank at American Apparel – you can totally cut it up and customize it to your liking.

securedownload-1#2.) Do Be Around Cool People

The 4th of July can bring out the biggest summer parties of the year. Gather a group of your favorite friends, head to the beach, lake, pool or somewhere cool and crack open a cold one! Celebrate our fabulous country around the people you love.

securedownload-2#3.) Don’t Come Empty Handed

Now is your time to show off your “secret” Pinterest recipes! Bring a dish that will have your peeps talkin and wanting more. You NEVER want to come to a party empty handed so kindly ask your host what they prefer you to bring. If you simply can’t cook than bring a refreshing bottle of Miraval Rosé  – which was developed by Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt at their 1,200-acre vineyard in France. For just $24 bucks (available at Whole Foods), you will have a neat conversation starter and a generous thank you gift.

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Did you know that listening and singing along to music boosts your positivity?! Create your very own “4th of July Mix” and turn up the tunes baby!

#5.) Do Mingle & Be Social

If you are single and invited to a BBQ than make an extra effort to connect with new people. You never know if Mr. Right will be there too. Bring out your friendly and approachable vibe and loosen up! Maybe there will be an unexpected firework show at the end of your night (wink, wink!).

couple-fireworks-gif-kiss-love-Favim.com-373647 Katy_Perry_-_Firework#6.) Don’t Get Too Drunk

Please don’t be one of those girls who drinks too many margaritas and ends up in the pool screaming for everyone to come join. Get yourself together! Have a couple cocktails and don’t get so sloppy.

tumblr_lrf14tnvsd1qcnumqo1_500 tumblr_mfjs8nYHG71s1ocnwo1_500Have a safe and Happy 4th of July!

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The Other Hubby

USA All The Way

Happy 4th of July to all you fabulous people out there!

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Whether you are throwing a big bash, watching fireworks, or traveling, I hope your weekend is spent celebrating our great country.

God Bless America!

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xo

The Other Hubby

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Confidence, Courage & Can-Do

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Here is the thing: I am not crazy about early mornings, but I really love waking up to a warm cup of coffee especially when it’s handed to me by my boyfriend. I know that sounds like a sentence from a Nicholas Sparks novel, but it is something that really ignites and kicks off my morning into a positive place.

What makes this cup of coffee even more delicious is when he says, “Here is the best tasting cup of coffee in the world.” Now, he is no barista in the kitchen. I would actually say the kitchen is not really his friend. But when he adds positive words like “the best tasting,” it not only excites me but makes me feel like I am really going to enjoy the greatest cup of coffee on the planet. That happy energy and simple uplifting exchange is something that puts a smile on my face before I dive into my workday.

It got me thinking about the words we use in our daily life, and how one or two words can really affect our delivery and the way our brain reacts, thinks and engages with another person or even are own self. If I were to come to you and say, “Have nice day,” does that have or give the same affect as if I were to say, “I hope you have the greatest day, you are going to rock it?”

I find it interesting that it only takes the simplest of changes in our vocabulary or tone of voice to make the biggest change in the way our mind reacts and our attitudes change. Like many of you out there, I am a big believer we have the ability to go from having a challenging moment to having an even brighter and better day by doing small steps following a hiccup or negative experience. Changing your attitude into a sense of pure happiness may seem like a total stretch, especially after a flat tire, work issue, relationship problem or family drama. I get how those conflicts are not easy for some people to do a quick turn around, but if you concentrate on the little aspects of your communication, the way you say things and words you use to yourself and others, then I believe it will allow you the opportunity for a more positive outlook on your day.

Avoid Negative Words & Phrases

For starters, some words that I would avoid using, especially in difficult moments that we may not even be conscious of at the time, include:

hopefully
with my luck
probably won’t happen
we’ll see
I don’t know but…

It’s words and phrases like these that can actually leave your mind on a desert island of negativity and confusion rather than subconsciously guiding you into a state of confidence, courage and can-do attitude. You should have a more powerful sense of conviction in your words and beliefs such as:

This is what I am going to do
I am going to get through this
What I am going to do next
I can handle this!

This also relates to text messages and emails you write. It can be difficult to tell the tone of an email, but most of the time you should be able to feel out if someone is in a good mood, being short or simply can’t be bothered. I always suggest starting an email with a quick and kind introduction, with a similar ending. Do you begin your emails with, “Good afternoon” or “How are you?” It shows the recipient of your email that you are approaching from a positive place, validating their day and that you have good ol’ fashioned manners. It is easier to make a point in an email or make your feelings noted when you are not on the defense or coming at a person with a harsh vibe. It is possible to be direct, firm, with politeness.

How often do you send text messages to your spouse that say, “What time will you be home from work?” To me, such a text does not sound very caring (especially to someone you really love). If you added, “Hi, hope you had a great day, do you know what time you will be home from work?” I guarantee that approach will be more impactful, come off with a higher sense of thoughtfulness and will set the evening into a more happier place. Everybody wants to feel acknowledged especially after a long workday or an hour sitting in traffic, so why not adjust your delivery by adding a few extra words of kindness? It will only allow for a more courteous exchange, which should feed into the other person’s feelings. Feelings and emotions are the root of how we communicate, so why not use words that help boost and continue a smoother way of talking to each other.

I challenge all of you to start your day tomorrow (or after you are done reading this!) by using stronger and higher vibrating words in your communication at home, work, online and even when you are thinking to yourself. We all know that words matter and have a measure of strength behind them. But, it is the words that are encouraging, engaging and uplifting which are most significant.

With that said, I wish you the happiest of all days. You are fantastic.

Gratitude and Peace,

Matt Jacobi

Hello July

“It is a great day to be alive” as my old track coach use to say.

This morning I woke to find my latest article on MariaShriver.com!

Writing for Maria’s inspirational website has been a huge passion of mine. I hope you take the time to go through her site too. She has done an exceptional job in creating motivating content that is also super relatable.IMG_5238 2I hope you are enjoying your summer and taking care of yourself.

The blue skies, warm sunshine and fresh air are calling my name!

IMG_5079Happy July 1st Friends!

xo

The Other Hubby

Thank You

IMG_5230While Nick and I traveled home from Chicago, we were overwhelmed to see so many of our friends and family show their support on The Supreme Court ruling. Whether you changed your Facebook profile picture or wrote a kind message, your actions were so appreciated.

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My wish is that we all continue to make this world a more compassionate place.

Love,

The Other Hubby

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