Posted on October 30, 2014
Posted on October 27, 2014
Not just because stars like Reese Witherspoon, Emily Blunt and John Krasinski have all called it home, but for the simple fact that every once in awhile I just need to get the hell out of LA.
That’s just it, there isn’t one AND that is the secret!
With weekend rates starting at $400 a night and a 50-minute massage priced at $140, the Spanish colonial-style resort is a hidden treasure. With three pools, four restaurants, an 18-hole golf course, a 31,000-square-foot spa, the Ojai Valley Inn is perfect for travelers who just want to escape!
The Other Hubby
Posted on October 25, 2014
So, if you have not created a comfortable nest for yourself than maybe you should start considering it now.
Say so long to your college futon and upgrade your go to TV hangout spot with a more structured and inviting space. Investing in a decent sofa is something to consider since it is one of the main focal points in your house. A sophisticated sofa will certainly kick your dorm room decor to the curb.
Get your mattress off the ground and look into buying an inexpensive frame and new bedding to dress up the place where you close your eyes and get it on. My old boss use to tell me, you have to love your job and love your bed because that is where you spend most of your time. When looking for new bedding, try and choose a comforter that does not have a busy pattern. You want to make a purchase that will stay in style and not look to trendy. Look for classic colors that won’t scare away your future boyfriend and that compliments the rest of your room.
You would be surprised what a difference a room will look when you hang up framed wall decor. Think of a theme that you want to consistently create throughout your house and find pieces that have the similar elements. You can find great sales online at Etsy, Z Gallerie and Home Goods.
If you have an outside space of windowsill that can hold a small pot or two than I suggest you get your green thumb out. Planting flowers or fresh herbs will bring some life and color to your casa!
Dazzle up your windows with a simple roll down shade or chic drapes to add some elegance to your interior. You want to make sure they are the right length and fabric so it compliments the scale of your room and furniture.
I am obsessed with hardwood floors but sometimes they can make a space look to cold. Warm up a popular room in your house by throwing down a fabulous area rug that will drown out that echo along with adding texture and a dash of coziness.
It may be a little too early for some heavy spring cleaning but do a walk through and toss out any bullshit accessories or crap you have collected over the years. The hoarding look is never cute and can subconsciously make you feel unorganized.
Forget about painting an entire room, simply choose an accent wall to break up some wall space and add some depth! Avoid choosing bold colors for the sides of a room as they will make it feel too narrow but rather softer shades for a more balanced look.
Throwing dinner parties and being a good hostess means you must have proper table settings. There is no need to get all fancy and spend your entire paycheck but you should have enough matching plates and glasses for a small gathering.
Have you ever walked into someone’s house and smelt dog all over the place? Well, I don’t want you to have that same problem. Go to your local Target or Walmart and stock up on air fresheners, plugins or some lovely candles. A happy house always needs to smell clean.
The Other Hubby
Posted on October 25, 2014
I am obsessed with Halloween and all the candy, costumes and cool parties that come along with it. Growing up, my Dad was all about getting into the Halloween spirit and would dress the four of us kids up for a night of full on trick or treating around the neighborhood. My Mom would wait for us to come home to go through the mountains of candy we had piled up on the kitchen table. The 31st of October was definitely a day we all looked forward to when we were young (check out the vintage Jacobi picture of my little brother, sisters and I back in the day. I was supposed to be a werewolf but looking at it now, I look like a teddy bear on crack.)
Halloween should be a happy time for families looking to make some memories but also a fun night for adults too! Costume contests, haunted houses, hay rides, themed parties, couple costumes, and more are all reasons why everyone should get into the spooky Halloween groove!!
Don’t you all love seeing how original people can get with their costumes and how some just let their creative juices flow?! It is so exciting to see what people will come up with next! I have seen some crazy and extraordinary outfits in my time but than again I do live in Los Angeles! The West Hollywood Halloween Carnival is something everyone has to experience in their lifetime. From food trucks, drag queens, DJ’s and bar crawls, there is something for everyone. Trust me on this, you will never forget it. Go to this link for more information (http://www.visitwesthollywood.com/halloween-carnaval/event-information/)!!
I think we should all remember that Halloween is not an excuse to dress up like a hooker or a slutty sex kitten just because you are calling it your “costume.” I am sure you know what I’m talking about too. We all have that one single friend who wants to “show herself off” in her “Sexy Cat Costume.” She is usually the same girl that ends up getting so hammered by the end of the night that her make-up gets all smeared, her words become slurs, her clip-in hair extensions are found scattered on the floor, and she ends up going home with the beer belly “Fireman.” EEEeek!
Can we please get it together this Halloween?!!! If you have a friend that wants to celebrate this holiday by showing off all she’s got than I suggest you try and guide her in the right costume direction. Try to go costume shopping together and come up with a plan to not show too much skin. A kick ass creative costume is going to get her much more attention than trying to be like every other girl in a sexy nurse, sexy maid, sexy Snow White, sexy skeleton, or sexy whatever costume.
Lastly, Halloween night can get very cold so a lingerie inspired costume wouldn’t make sense anyway. How much fun can you have walking around feeling frozen?
For all my single ladies, please don’t use Halloween as an excuse to run into your exboyfriend in a hot little outfit. That is just so obvious. Enjoy your time with your friends and make sure your focus is only on having a memorable time. Please!
We can all save our hooker costumes for the bedroom.
The Other Hubby
Posted on October 21, 2014
The internet erupted today with harsh criticism and nasty comments about Actress, Renee Zellweger.
Has she had plastic surgery?
Perhaps, but I’ve never met her before and would never ask.
Think before you post.
The Other Hubby
Posted on October 19, 2014
Makeovers and makeunders I know far to well.
Is your self confidence in the toilet?
Did some asshole deflate your self esteem?
Trying to impress an ex?
Are you bored?
Your motivation for a makeover should come from a good place. You never want to do something drastic to the way you look when your mind is in a funky spot.
#1.) Don’t cut bangs if you just went through a break-up. It is not your hairs fault that your ex-boyfriend is a loser. Cut out some inspirational ideas from a magazine and show them to your stylist before making the chop.
The Other Hubby
Posted on October 16, 2014
Join me in celebrating #SpiritDay!
Stand up against bullying!
There are all kinds of bullying stories. It seems that everyone has a tale to tell, especially if they are gay. In some ways bullying stories are as common to hear as our famous coming-out sagas. Perhaps sharing our story is a way for us to bond together, to relate to each other, to show how far we have come. Are times changing? Are things getting better for kids in schools? Is the world becoming a nicer place where everyone is accepted? I would like to believe so, but there is still a lot of work left to do. There are certain things that we cannot control. Some kids are always going to be mean to others who are different. They may learn how to hate from all sorts of examples in life: parents, grandparents, peers, media, church, etc. What can we do? I think we must continue telling our stories, showing the world that we will not tolerate bullying, educating people that we are not lesser human beings. Our human rights should not differ from the person sitting next to us. With that said, I share with you my own story.
The first time I realized I was different from the other boys was in elementary school. I had no interest in sports. I talked differently: My voice was as high as a kite. I was incredibly scrawny and shy for my age. I gravitated toward hanging out with the girls, not just because I felt more comfortable around them but because I was not accepted by the other guys in my class. I did not have an athletic bone in my body, and I wore big black-framed eyeglasses that covered half my face. I dreaded gym class and despised anything that would mess up my perfectly parted hair. Talking about what girl was the hottest or what my favorite football team was did not interest me, and the guys knew it.
From elementary school through high school, I was tormented, teased, pushed, and ridiculed for being different. The worst was during junior high, where you reach that age where you are supposed to have a girlfriend or at least talk about who you hooked up with over the weekend. I dreaded going to school during this time. There was a group of guys who knew I was an easy target. They would jump at the chance to call me “fag” in front of a crowd or make fun of the way I was dressed. They once shoved me into a harp case in music class, locked me in it, and started banging on it as hard as they could. My screaming did not phase them. They did not give a shit; they loved to hear the other kids roar with laughter. These same guys would deflate the tires on my bike so that I would be late to school, and they would whiz past me, screaming out gay slurs.
The name calling is what killed me the most. It messed with my head and sucked out any confidence I had. My sense of self did not exist. I felt so confused in my own head, because I had so many of my own questions going on in there. I really did not understand what being gay meant back then, nor did I understand what it meant for me. I would cry myself to sleep at night, or I would lie awake, praying to God that I would wake up different. I wanted to die. I did not want to continue living my life. I wanted to wake up the next day and think and act like the other guys. When you live your life with all these negative thoughts in your head and hear the worst things you can imagine said about yourself, you dive deep into a very dark place. It was one of the lowest moments of my life. After high school I felt like I had to have sex with girls to prove something to everyone (and to myself). Afterwards I would feel horrible and worse because I didn’t enjoy the sex. I hated living a lie and was so deeply confused.
I finally found my strength through my family and going away to college. Later I would come out to my parents, sisters, brother and all my colorful aunts, uncles and cousins (a very large Italian bunch, let me add). I had not even kissed a guy yet, but I knew that I had to come to terms with who I am and the fact that I was born this way. I was born gay. I remember talking to my mother, who was sitting across from me at a restaurant in Arizona. She knew I had been distant and not myself for a long time, and she said something that I will hold close to my heart for the rest of my life: “Matt, you know, if you were gay, we would all be fine with that. We love you no matter what.” I remember driving out of the restaurant parking lot and taking a huge breath. It felt like I’d thrown a pile of bricks off my shoulders. Going away to college helped me tremendously as well. To this day I still hang out with the friends who accepted me for me, ever judged me, never teased me and always had my back.
When I hear about young kids wanting to kill themselves or crying out for help because they are being bullied in school, I want to tell them to never give up. I know what it’s like to not want to go on, but I am so glad I did. It does not just get better; it gets a hell of a lot better! Life works out in the wildest ways, and things that you dream of actually can and do come true. As I sit here and write this essay, I look to my left and see the person who brings me the most happiness, my boyfriend of six years, Nick. He has kept me grounded in this crazy Hollywood town, and I know for sure that I could not have done it without him. Nick is truly one of a kind. The only thing missing now is the ring! Yep, I am waiting for him to propose (and so are our families!). What can I say? I am a traditional guy at heart. You better believe we are going to have one big Italian wedding, with lots of food, dancing, and celebration. We want to go all out and celebrate not just each other but life and equality for all.
There is always a light hiding behind your darkest days. It just takes your inner strength to release it. Once you have it, nobody can take that away from you. Let us all continue to support each other and stay strong.
Visit The Trevor Project or call them at 1-866-488-7386.
The Other Hubby