A Dream Day In The Desert

When you think of visiting Arizona, one BIG hole probably comes to mind – The Grand Canyon.

FullSizeRenderSure, this wonder of the world is a sight to see, but if you want to do something that will lift your soul without making that long drive than I suggest you check out – The Desert Botanical Gardens.

matt jacobiI am not much of a green thumb so when I first heard that I would be going to a place with the word, “garden” in it,  I was not sure what to expect! To my surprise, I was absolutely blown away but the positive energy that surrounded me once I pulled into the front gates.

FullSizeRender-4 FullSizeRender-2The moment you make your way through the entrance and pass the ticket counter, you are greeted by the most gorgeous desert scenery your eyes will ever see.

FullSizeRender-2 FullSizeRender FullSizeRender-5 FullSizeRender-4FullSizeRender-14 12.39.37 AMWhat made my trip to this sunny paradise even more eventful was the knowledge shared by my tour guide, Steve, who has been a plant guru for over 7 years!

FullSizeRender-7 FullSizeRender copy 2Now, I am not one for tours as they can often be a total snoozefest but Steve was friendly, to the point, and even allowed us to hold different elements from the desert – such as this burrow made from the inside of a cactus.

FullSizeRender-6FullSizeRender-8After getting a dose of Arizona education, I roamed the rest of the stunning grounds to only be met by some new furry and feathery friends.

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FullSizeRender-3 FullSizeRender-5Home to over hundreds of butterflies, this spacious 36-by-80-foot enclosed garden recreates a lush habitat for these fragile fliers. It is an experience you do not want to miss!! There is something so fantastic seeing all these uniquely colored butterflies surround you and even land on you at times. I was completely mesmerized. 

FullSizeRender-6 FullSizeRender-7 FullSizeRender-8 FullSizeRender-11 FullSizeRender-9 FullSizeRender-2FullSizeRender-2FullSizeRender-4FullSizeRender-9FullSizeRender-12Pretty cool, right?!! Here are some handy planting tips if you are looking to attract some of these beauties! 

FullSizeRender-6 FullSizeRender-8Before you start planning out your dream garden, please allow me to inspire you with more pics from this magical place.

aTeLbyaT4From the prickly….

FullSizeRender-15FullSizeRender-9…to the pointy…

FullSizeRender-13…to the colorful…

FullSizeRender-10 12.39.37 AM…to the weird…

FullSizeRender-4FullSizeRender-7FullSizeRender-8The Desert Botanical Gardens is a refreshing reminder to not only appreciate nature, but to take time to stop and notice the beauty around us.


The Other Hubby

Beyond Funny

This was the video of the day.

Watch the incredibly hilarious Amy Shumer on the Ellen Show!


The Other Hubby

Seeing Ageism and Sexism Through The Prism Of Madonna

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Lover her or hate her, you have to agree that Madonna works really hard, is a savvy businesswoman and very good at making a public statement. Let’s put her talent of performing and creating a dazzling show aside for a moment and break down how the Material Girl has kept her name a buzz throughout pop culture history for the past 30 years, and why you should take a moment to think about it.

Through decades of publicity stunts, magazine covers and now online chatter, Madonna continues to create a sense of controversy, but also what I believe to be an important discussion for our society, especially for women.

With her recently released new album, Rebel Heart, Madge is still holding the throne of being the queen at making waves in the press and causing people to roll their eyes (I’ll get to that in a minute). Whether she is flashing her bum on the red carpet, posing topless or falling backwards at The Brit Awards, Madonna’s actions continue to be in the headlines. If you sit back and look at the bigger picture though, there is always a message behind what she does and says, including her oh-so famous provocative ways.

Yes, her goal is to sell music (that is a given), but she is also driven to make a statement of some kind to stir up conversation and make people think. Such statements at times, like kissing Britney Spears on stage or releasing her Sex book, may seem unnecessary to some people at first, but in the end, Madonna is doing these things to open up the minds of the current time.

Today, seeing two women kiss on television is not that big of deal and being naked or showing skin in the media is practically everywhere. I’m not giving Madonna all the credit in completely revolutionizing the freedom of self-expression, but she certainly has played a big part with just using her own music platform. I believe that is her main focus, and it is something courageous for a person to do. Madonna is always on a mission to revolutionize the way people think. She encourages rebelling against what is considered to be “wrong.” She may come off as the loudest, raunchiest and most daring at times, but if you zero in on what she is trying to communicate, then her actions should take less of the spotlight and her message should take the center stage.

What has my mind ticking is the opinionated backlash she (still) gets, especially on social media, for being “too old” to be doing what she does. Not one to keep quiet, Madonna has gone on the defense in recent interviews expressing that she is a victim of ageism and sexism. So, I have to ask, are Madonna’s current provocative ways “not appropriate” for the masses just because she is fifty-six years old? Is it ageism at its best?

I think, yes! When Britney, Beyoncé and Gaga are up on stage gyrating, nobody makes a big stink about it, so why is society so hung up on bashing Madonna? Why is there an expiration date for women and their expression of sexuality?

Madonna is also a mother, in impeccable shape, employs many people and has achieved success on many different levels. You would think her drive, talent and healthy physique would be an inspiration. Sure, she can upset people and goes to the extreme in many cases to make a point, but her motive is to get people to create conversation. That is a success all on its own. The more interaction she creates and the more thought provoking she is, the more awareness is in the air. That awakens our minds.

Madonna has also been a strong supporter for human rights, equality and numerous charities for decades. That is inspiring to me and those are qualities of somebody with compassion and wanting to make a change.

So, here we are in 2015 and Madonna is still being hated on. It does not make a whole lot of sense to me. She has paved the way for so many young artists and contributed to shifting and bending the norms of society. If the way she went about it was too much for some people, I can understand that, but perhaps the focus should be directed towards her positive intentions and forward thinking.

I don’t want to convince people to be Madonna fans because that is not what is important. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion (especially with music). But I do think all the negative words being said about her are overly harsh, and there is a disconnect between how she is viewed and the points she has made.

Society can be so strict about women wanting to express themselves, whether it is through artistic expression, fashion or music. The judgment meter has always been sky-high when it comes to women being bold in history. So I have to again ask. What type of message do you want to give your daughters: to stay quiet, not express what they think, not stand up for themselves and that when a woman reaches a certain age, she must dial down her creative thoughts? That just sounds so backwards to me.

Thank you for reading.

Matt Jacobi (Your Other Hubby)

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Happy Easter

Happy Easter to all my favorite people and readers out there.

I love you all.

Make today extra special.

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The Other Hubby

Friends Till The End

11056047_800202323390076_139544484_nA best friend should…..

Make you smile without saying a word.

Cheer you up with a simple phone call.

Neve judge you.

Love you unconditionally.

Encourage you.

Make you think.

Consider you family.

Inspire you.

Always be there.

Be low maintenance.

Have your back.


Remind you of the old times.

Bring out the best in you.


The Other Hubby

Insecurity & Relationships

heart_01_litA few of my friends are going through dating troubles and I could not help to wonder why such gorgeous girls (both inside and out) struggle in finding and keeping love.

finalI’ve had many talks with them to try and get to the core of the issue but I started to figure out that their biggest hurdle is their lack of inner happiness and insecurity in relationships.

insecurity1These girls have great lives, good families and can hold their own when it comes to work and socializing but crazy enough, they go weak when it comes to men.

Insecurity can be so incredibly hard to overcome because it is something that brews deep inside a person.

Thousands of people can tell a girl she looks beautiful but if she does not feel it herself, than those words just evaporate.

So, the question is how does one work on becoming confident when it comes to relationships?

I brainstormed some points that I think might help with a situation like this.

1.) Get Out Of Your Head

I think a lot of insecure people live in their heads. They are overwhelmed with worry and concern what others think of them. The less you give a shit what anybody else thinks and focus more on your own self assurance – the better. You should not worry about what others think of your relationship, what matters is the happiness between you and your new boyfriend.

bench2.) Stop Creating Chaos

A relationship will never last if you are searching for something bad to happen. That is self destruction at its finest. You need to let go of the fear and guide your mind into a place of peace. Each time you think of a crazy thought, try and bring it back to a place of happiness. Don’t be the girl that looks for trouble. It will get you no where and drive your boyfriend away.

tumblr_mj9kmntxF81qcsk9zo1_5003.) Leave The Past Behind

Your past does not define who you are so if there are bad breakups that haunt you, I strongly suggest you put those feelings to bed before diving into anything new. It is not fair to your guy or your new relationship that you constantly compare them with troubled old times.

shutterstock_1470178224.) Don’t Complain About Your Looks

Focus on the good in you and don’t pick at what you consider to be “flaws.” Own your look and know that insecurity is something nobody can physically see so stop brining it to the surface. Surround yourself with people that make you feel strong and change your negative mindset about your appearance. Train your brain to think with confidence.

tumblr_mfj3tajCEe1rvbnyoo1_500You are deserve happiness.

I’ll say it one more time.



The Other Hubby


If you have been online today than you probably noticed it is “National Puppy Day.”

It is also Monday so if you want to add cute puppies into the mix, I am all for it!

Since, I don’t have a dog – I thought I’d share this video of some adorable little pups.

This should make your day so much more better.

Maybe it is time we all buy a furry friend.


The Other Hubby


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