Posted on February 5, 2016
If you are looking for an alternative to crunchy tacos than look no further.
Tonight, we chowed down on the lettuce wrap version to one of my favorite meals.
Take a peak at all the ingredients…
They were DELICIOUS!
The Other Hubby
Posted on February 3, 2016
Before you pack your bags and get ready for take off, please check out my travel tips that I acquired from years of flying around the globe. Many of you may already have a good travel routine down which is fabulous! For those of you jet setters that need a little extra advice, I suggest you sit back, buckle up and keep reading.
1.) Keep Packing Simple. Do not overpack or you’ll feel overwhelmed once you reach your destination. You also want to save room in your suitcase for what you buy on the road. The more pieces of clothing you have the more complicated it is going to be when putting an outfit together before a work trip so do your best to simplify. Another good idea, is to preplan your outfits during your packing process. This way you will know exactly what is going into your bag. Please keep in mind that many airlines are now charging extra for baggage fees so do your best to use one suitcase.
2.) Roll Your Clothes. The best way to save some space in your suitcase is to roll your clothes like pizza dough. Instead of folding them in a stacked up pile, try rolling your clothes to save space and limit those wrinkles.
3.) Check In Online. The majority of all major airlines allow you to check in and print your boarding pass before you get to the airport. This helps you avoid at least one line! The beauty of a preprinted boarding pass is that if you only have a carry on, you can head straight to security for check in. What a time saver : )
4.) Exit Rows Are Your Friend. If you do not have the funds for business or first class, than do your best to get a seat in the exit row for the extra legroom.
5.) Meditate. Once onboard, put on some soothing music and zen out. Try to relax, breathe-and try to fall asleep. The airplane can be a good spot to catch up on some long lost sleep. There is nothing better than waking up in your destination. ZZZzzz
6.) Be A Good Neighbor. Not everyone likes to talk during their flight so engage in short conversations with your seatmate if you have a tendency to be chatty. Also, avoid bringing food onboard that has a stinky stench.
7.) Kill Germs. After being ona plane all day, you must remember to kill al the germs you may have encountered after being in such a public space. One of my favorite travel products is Herban Essential Towelettes. They are amazing for traveling and even the gym!
8.) Family First. If you are traveling with kids and big bulky strollers, don’t worry because many of the airlines are family friendly. Most airports have the Family/Special Assistance lane for passengers with small children. It is also helpful to use this lane if you need to carry formula or milk.
9.) Give Yourself a Time Cushion. I am talking about that extra time gap in between getting from home to the airport. Leaving just a little early will buy you that extra sense of relief if you hit traffic on the way or need to stop last minute.
10.) Get Connected. If your airline offers a paging system for flight updates and gate changes, than make sure you sign up when you book your ticket. Updates can be sent directly to your cell phone.
Safe flying and see you at the airport!
The Other Hubby
Posted on February 3, 2016
Are you going on a romantic vacay with your boyfriend or planning a couple’s trip for the first time overseas??
#1 – A true test to a relationship is if you can avoid fighting while vacating together (especially in a foreign country). If you can do that than you and your man are seriously meant to be together. Nothing says true chemistry, true commitment or ever lasting love than staying sane while flying over 12 hours with the general public. The crying baby on board, the first time flyers in front of you at the security line, the over priced baggage fees, and delayed flights are all mini challenges that can test the patience of a traveling couple.
#2 – Just because you are a super organized planner with a small case of OCD, don’t expect your other half to be the same. Not everyone believes in a color coordinated suitcase, laminated itinerary or a powerpoint presentation on your daily activities. Be OK with just going with the flow. It is good to plan the basics like car pick up, hotel confirmations and all that jazz but make sure to keep your mood easy going and care free. You are on vacation so don’t make it feel like work.
#4 – Don’t overpack. There is nothing worse than having too much shit in a hotel room. Don’t be that girl that has a bag for everything (an accessory bag, jewelry bag, shoe bag, hair bag, etc). If you want your boyfriend to be happy than pack what you need and keep him from having to be your personal bag boy.
#5 – Pick your battles. Spending hours and hours together over a course of a week can cause some tension. Something that your boyfriend does will probably get on your nerves. I have heard it all, from his nail biting, to the way he chews – the littlest movements can suddenly turn into the biggest annoyance. Do yourself a favor and try to switch off those negative thoughts! You don’t want to ruin a romantic time just because you chose to voice your opinion about his toe hair.
#6 – Take lots of pictures but don’t go nuts with posting every single one on Facebook. The tagging, the check-ins, the selfies and food pics can get really old. It also take up a lot of time. Enjoy the one-on-one time you have with your spouse. Get off Facebook.
#7 – Be nice to others. When traveling abroad with your lover, it is important to keep your attitude in check. Nothing is more unattractive than seeing your lover yell at a waiter, flight attendant, front desk help or any other service member. A positive attitude will go a long way and your man will appreciate the way you treat the people around you. Too many people pick apart what is wrong in a situation than what is actually going right. So, the next time the waiter screws up your order or your flight is delayed, suck it up and put a smile on your face.
#8 – Don’t drink too much. I know that vacationing is all about letting loose but don’t drink just to get waisted. The key is to not get so intoxicated that all your time is spent barfing in the toilet. Keep your alcohol intake to a minimum, especially if you have been known to get extra sensitive after a couple cocktails.
#9 – Have an open mind. The more flexible you are and willing to try new adventures – the better your trip will be. Think out of your comfort box when traveling! You will be surprised how much more fun the two of you will have together.
#10 – Last but not least, don’t forget to laugh. My boyfriend and I have not laughed so much in one day than on this trip. For example, while we were walking the streets of Bergen, we got caught in a complete downpour of rain!! This is all after I gave myself the best blowout and perfectly coiffed hair style. We stood there soaking wet laughing are heads off. Sometimes the best kinds of memories are the ones that are not planned.
The Other Hubby
Posted on February 1, 2016
Kick off your month with a positive attitude!
Here are a few tips on how to make your February even more successful:
– Arrive to work early
– Be more detailed and organized
– Step up your fitness routine
– Watch what you eat
– Spend less time on social media
– Be more grateful
– Encourage the people in your life to do the same.
The Other Hubby
Posted on January 27, 2016
Here is the thing: I am not crazy about early mornings, but I really love waking up to a warm cup of coffee especially when it’s handed to me by my boyfriend. I know that sounds like a sentence from a Nicholas Sparks novel, but it is something that really ignites and kicks off my morning into a positive place.
What makes this cup of coffee even more delicious is when he says, “Here is the best tasting cup of coffee in the world.” Now, he is no barista in the kitchen. I would actually say the kitchen is not really his friend. But when he adds positive words like “the best tasting,” it not only excites me but makes me feel like I am really going to enjoy the greatest cup of coffee on the planet. That happy energy and simple uplifting exchange is something that puts a smile on my face before I dive into my workday.
It got me thinking about the words we use in our daily life, and how one or two words can really affect our delivery and the way our brain reacts, thinks and engages with another person or even are own self. If I were to come to you and say, “Have nice day,” does that have or give the same affect as if I were to say, “I hope you have the greatest day, you are going to rock it?”
I find it interesting that it only takes the simplest of changes in our vocabulary or tone of voice to make the biggest change in the way our mind reacts and our attitudes change. Like many of you out there, I am a big believer we have the ability to go from having a challenging moment to having an even brighter and better day by doing small steps following a hiccup or negative experience. Changing your attitude into a sense of pure happiness may seem like a total stretch, especially after a flat tire, work issue, relationship problem or family drama. I get how those conflicts are not easy for some people to do a quick turn around, but if you concentrate on the little aspects of your communication, the way you say things and words you use to yourself and others, then I believe it will allow you the opportunity for a more positive outlook on your day.
Avoid Negative Words & Phrases
For starters, some words that I would avoid using, especially in difficult moments that we may not even be conscious of at the time, include:
with my luck
probably won’t happen
I don’t know but…
It’s words and phrases like these that can actually leave your mind on a desert island of negativity and confusion rather than subconsciously guiding you into a state of confidence, courage and can-do attitude. You should have a more powerful sense of conviction in your words and beliefs such as:
This is what I am going to do
I am going to get through this
What I am going to do next
I can handle this!
This also relates to text messages and emails you write. It can be difficult to tell the tone of an email, but most of the time you should be able to feel out if someone is in a good mood, being short or simply can’t be bothered. I always suggest starting an email with a quick and kind introduction, with a similar ending. Do you begin your emails with, “Good afternoon” or “How are you?” It shows the recipient of your email that you are approaching from a positive place, validating their day and that you have good ol’ fashioned manners. It is easier to make a point in an email or make your feelings noted when you are not on the defense or coming at a person with a harsh vibe. It is possible to be direct, firm, with politeness.
How often do you send text messages to your spouse that say, “What time will you be home from work?” To me, such a text does not sound very caring (especially to someone you really love). If you added, “Hi, hope you had a great day, do you know what time you will be home from work?” I guarantee that approach will be more impactful, come off with a higher sense of thoughtfulness and will set the evening into a more happier place. Everybody wants to feel acknowledged especially after a long workday or an hour sitting in traffic, so why not adjust your delivery by adding a few extra words of kindness? It will only allow for a more courteous exchange, which should feed into the other person’s feelings. Feelings and emotions are the root of how we communicate, so why not use words that help boost and continue a smoother way of talking to each other.
I challenge all of you to start your day tomorrow (or after you are done reading this!) by using stronger and higher vibrating words in your communication at home, work, online and even when you are thinking to yourself. We all know that words matter and have a measure of strength behind them. But, it is the words that are encouraging, engaging and uplifting which are most significant.
With that said, I wish you the happiest of all days. You are fantastic.
Gratitude and Peace,
Posted on January 25, 2016
Today is Monday and it is going to be wonderful. Uh-oh. Did I already lose your attention? Please allow me to elaborate. You see, I told myself last night that today was going to be a really great day, one of the best days of the entire week. No, it is not my birthday or a national holiday, just your usual ol’ Monday sitting center stage waiting for you to give it some applause.
Call me crazy, but I have to say that Monday has a really bad rap. Of all the days of the week, it is the one day that gets the most negativity. I believe there are ways to turn that around so you have a more productive Monday and a more energetic week.
You see, Mondays were not always my favorite day either. I used to wish there was some magically added extra day between Sunday and Monday. Or, when three-day weekends rolled around, I would think that I had died and gone to the best week heaven. Not having to face that dreadful Monday morning always sounded so delicious to me. Then I got to thinking, would we all feel the same way about Tuesday if Monday turned into a day off? Are we automatically programmed to be unhappy when it comes to starting a new week? There has to be something underneath why so many people wish Monday would just go away.
A while ago, I decided to challenge myself, the way I thought about starting a new week and the way I looked at Monday. To be honest, a lot of my negative thinking had to do with my job. For me, changing where I worked had much to do with my motivation and outlook. A dear friend once told me, “You have to love two things in life: Your mattress and your job, because that is where you spend the most time.” I had gotten the mattress part down, but I was destined to reinvent my career. I know that changing jobs is a big deal, but I discovered the more I enjoyed what I did at work, the easier it was for me to jump feet first into Monday. However, transitioning into a new position (that you love!) takes time, so I started to make simple changes in my everyday life that helped boost me to have a healthier and stronger mindset on Monday.
Here are a few helpful tips on how to rewire your brain and start thinking of Monday as more of a kick start than a slow start.
Turn Up The Tunes
Let’s begin with that morning drive to work. If you live in a metropolitan area like LA, New York, Boston or Philly, then I am probably singing to your choir. Traffic is the absolute worst and can really drain a person’s energy. Definitely not the best way to start off your day. Unfortunately, we have to come to peace that rush hour traffic is not ever going to change. Everyone has a place to be, and the roads are not going to suddenly widen and make room for all the other cars. Don’t engage in what you can’t control. Traffic is not going anywhere. Instead of transforming into a road rage monster, why don’t you preplan your bumper-to-bumper experience by organizing a custom feel good playlist? Did you know that singing to your favorite tunes boosts endorphins?
Add Kindness To Your Coffee
If you get an early start to your Monday, stop at your favorite coffee or tea hot spot. Treating yourself to a specially brewed pot of Joe will give you a reward at the wee hours of the morning. A once-a-week gift to yourself won’t break the bank either. See, you are already off to the right start. I also suggest going inside the actual shop rather than a drive thru so you can engage with a barista or other customers in line. Exchanging some kind of smile or friendly dialogue will add an extra shot of happy energy to your day. You will be surprised how nice it feels when you hold the door open for somebody, say “How are you?” and wait for an answer, or even allow yourself time to sit for a moment to relax and actually taste your coffee. A few minutes of “meditation” in this way has never hurt anyone before.
Stop The Complaining
I continue to have a love/not-so-love relationship with Facebook as I’ve lately found it to be a sounding board for complainers. There is so much negativity running through people’s Facebook feeds it is nuts! If you are one of those people who must log on to the social network site as soon as you get to work (I don’t recommend that), than why don’t you post something with a more positive message? Writing something like, “Ugh. I wish I was still in bed” or “This weekend was not long enough” has a negative and un-motivating vibration to it. It not only sends out a lackluster update to your “friends” that you sort of hate your life, and a signal to your mind that you are in the dumps. What I’ve done is unfollowed people who enjoy sharing their misery and rather used social media as a tool to get more encouraging messages. You know that saying, “You are who you hang out with?” Well, we might as add: “You are who you follow” to that too.
Wear Your Favorite Outfit
Ladies and gentleman this is one of my favorite tips. I know I will get some eye rolls for this one but please hear me out. Save your best outfit for Monday. It will help you feel more confident (along with showing your coworkers you have a brilliant sense of style) and will make those Monday blues feel like last season. A killer outfit makes us feel good. When we look good, we feel good and there is no better day to show off that fashionably goodness than Monday.
Listen, there is typically one Debbie Downer in every office. Try not to engage in conversation with that person. The typical question most people get on a Monday morning from their near by coworkers is, “How was your weekend?” Most often, people ask that question as a standard way of politeness, but there are those few who use it as a gateway question so they can respond with all their personal drama. Avoid engaging in a low energy dialogue that is going to take your AM high to a zero. Monday back at work should be fueled with drive, determination, optimism and a willingness to succeed.
Not every day is going to be perfect, but I am not asking for perfect. I challenge you to start this Monday off with a more positive bang so you allow yourself to maneuver through the week with clarity, control and consistency.
From me to you – Have an awesome day! I know you will!!
Posted on January 22, 2016
There are people that will come into your life that will inspire you to the max.
Kaley O’Kelley is that person to me.
With over a decade of friendship under our belts, Kaley continues to lead the way as a force in the television news business, as mother, wife, and much more.
Today, she is sharing her message on life and recent scare with cancer.
Here is her story.
It’s been almost 8 weeks since I heard my doctor say “ovarian cancer”.
There were many, many, many other words. I never heard any of them. I saw his mouth moving and fought like hell not to cry.
First, I prayed asking God to guide me and I thought of my children.
I could smell their baby lotion lathered heads.. with a hint of dirt (if you’re a mom you know that smell). I could hear them belly laugh… It was all slow motion. It was my life.. All those little things .. Really were BIG things.
This was my life-altering moment.
LESSON #1: Slow Down
Days prior, I noticed there had been a dull nagging pain in my lower left abdomen.
Looking back I’ve come to realize the pain had been there for months.
I remember driving to work one day thinking I should get it checked– but I’m not exactly the type to make time to get to the doctor.
I’m a working mom.
Free time? What’s that?
Two nights later I was in bed, sat straight up and said “What the heck was that?!” It felt like a massive balloon exploded in my stomach.
My husband turned the light on and said “Kaley.. You look terrible”.
I crawled to the bathroom and felt a rush of pain sweep through me.
I typically have an *unusually high tolerance for pain. It was excruciating
I felt nauseous, almost fainted and then I went to the Emergency Room.
MRI results revealed what the doctor said was an ovarian cyst rupture. “Several” other cysts were spotted. Ovarian cysts are normal but the doctor at the ER recommend I see a specialist and suggested more blood tests and ultra sounds to “really see” what was there.
As soon as I could get an ultrasound it revealed at least one, possibly two cysts described as “complex”.. and “of particular concern”.
The doctor I was sent to in Texas was ready to operate right away.
I wasn’t so sure.
LESSON 2 : Don’t put your health on hold.
I opted to get a second opinion from my OBGYN in AZ.
I met Dr Eckle in 2010 the night I learned I was 8 weeks into an ectopic pregnancy and hemorrhaging.
He was the doctor on call that night.
During emergency surgery he saved my life AND salvaged what he could so Paul and I would have an opportunity to become parents.
Years later he delivered both of our babies!! They are the greatest thing to EVER happen to us. (A TRUE blessing considering my fear of motherhood and commitment!!)
Dr. ECKLE looked at all of my test results and requested a few of his own.
He too suggested a November surgery.
There was never any pressure from my managers at work but because Television News is wacky we still live in a world that revolves around Nielsen Rating points. November, May and February are months in which people in our business just don’t take time off… PERIOD.
In my mind taking time off work during these months would be like being the point guard on a college basketball team that made it to the Sweet 16 Tournament and then just leaving to have surgery.
Why not at least ask my doctor to entertain doing it 4 weeks later?!
Because “better looking” results of a particular blood test my doctor said we could schedule the December surgery date as long as I took it easy.
Considering how much pain I was in and the fear that my condition may have worsened, I made a mistake.
My health should have come first. For me yes but, for my family as well.
This was a narcissistic choice. I am ashamed to admit that. It’s embarrassing to even write down. My hope is.. In doing so I will learn from it AND that by sharing this, maybe others will too.
We are now 6 days post op.. Yes I hurt like hell but not like I did. The pain I feel now is the result of surgical incisions.
What was going on inside of me was a constant drag on my overall being.
Now, I feel more alive than I ever have!
LESSON 3: Staying Positive is a Game Changer
In October during testing many things were said that could’ve sent me into a tailspin.
The moment I prayed in that doctor’s office I felt an overwhelming sense of God’s presence. In that moment I decided I was not going to Google anything about this process.
My Native American heritage has taught me about the significance of energy.
I love the quote:
“What you think about grows” and it goes both ways. THIS is why choosing good thoughts will change your life.
I’m living proof.
Long ago, I made a decision to consciously think positive.
As we approached surgery I never wrote the “C” word and I only said it a handful of times. Only when I had to.
Guess what? Results of my Ultra Sound from just before surgery revealed the “complex cysts” we’re still there but they never grew. In fact they were a little smaller the day of my operation.
The fact that they stopped growing is incredibly significant.
LESSON #4: The best WAKE UP CALLS in life tend to be the most terrifying.
I can’t claim to have handled this one perfectly BUT from this I have learned to slow down and really listen to my body.
I have learned that no job or task is important enough to put my health on hold for
I have also proven to myself that positive vibes really are contagious and in my case proof that miracles can and do happen and especially so when we have FAITH and let GOD handle what WE simply cannot.
LESSON #5: I once heard Robin Roberts (Good Morning America) say, “Make your mess your message”.
It was good friend who recently encouraged me to journal through the pain of my process. FYI: The very thought of sharing a story all about “me” makes my stomach turn. My fear? That I’m talking too much about myself. (I’m a journalist. I tell stories about other people).
Hopefully though my story will help others who might need to slow down too and enjoy the moment.
I feel a new zest for life.
Looking forward to getting back on my horse.. Riding back to TEXAS and tackling what I now KNOW is going to be the best life chapter yet!
Thanks for listening.