I love Facebook. I think it has changed the way we communicate on all sorts of levels. You are now able to send a message to all your “friends” in one zap without having to tell a story over and over again. Even sending out birthday cards are almost a thing of the past, as you can say, “happy b-day, congratulations and get well soon” all by a press of a button.
One of the best features of Facebook is the “relationship status” section, where you can announce to the world that you are single and ready to mingle. Some of my girlfriends simply use Facebook to ‘Facestock’ their crushes and see if they are dating or not. It really is one big open rolodex that allows the public to read and research your personal updates without having to even meet you.
With that said, it is very important that you are conscious of what you put onto Facebook. Yes, your online reputation is just as precious as how you are perceived in real life.
What I find most entertaining these days, is how vulnerable and personal some of the updates all my single lady friends post. It almost sounds like they are on a mission to spread the word of single-life.
A Facebook intervention has been so needed for many of my girlfriends so I thought I would share some of my thoughts with all of you, just in case you need a little “Single Girl Facebook Etiquette.”
The Other Hubby’s Top 10 Single Girl Facebook Rules
1.) Complaining Will Get You No Where
Nobody likes a complainer, especially when all they are nagging about is how being single sucks. If your settings are not set to private, and the new guy you are dating is checking out your wall, make sure you axe the “I am over being single” crap. It will totally send the wrong message. Besides, spice up your wall with a little positivity now and again. Remember that positive people attract positive people.
2.) No Hoochie Profile Pictures
Your profile picture is open to the public and pops up when people do a Facebook search through friends and at times, it even comes up on Google. That is why you need to make sure you are not wearing a Forever 21 tube dress with your boobs hanging out. Keep your profile picture classy, cute and fun. Avoid the teazy-sleezy look, as it totally sends the wrong impression (and hello…if you are interviewing for a job, they are soo checking that out too!)
3.) Don’t Hate On The Ex
Whatever you do, don’t bash your ex on your Facebook wall. It is just tacky and shows that you are immature. If you are going through a break up than keep it civil. There is no need to make some dramatic remark or statement to show him that you are mad at him. Facebook is not your personal PR platform.
4.) Delete The Ex Albums
If you are looking to get back into the dating pool, than I suggest you update your photo album section and delete all those pictures you posted of you and your ex making out. Your new guy will not appreciate seeing you locking lips with another guy. It will either show him that you are not over your ex or that you are totally an open book (literally). Believe it or not, some guys like to keep their lives somewhat private.
5.) Easy on the Party Pics
Your personal pics can be more controlled as you can limit the audience to your photo albums so make sure you have your old “Freshman Year Spring Break” album on lockdown . The drunken party pics need to be kept away. No guy is going to be attracted to a girl that posts pictures of herself laying on the bathroom floor with beer bottles around her. Party girls are not taken seriously. Your photo albums are the first place a guy will look after he finds you on Facebook.
6.) Do Not Friend Request Him
If you find your crush or the guy you are dating on Facebook, please do NOT friend request him first. There is nothing else to say about this, just DON’T do it.
7.) Watch Where You Check In
Now that you are able to show your friends where you “check-in,” make sure you are not only checking yourself into bars and clubs. Guys don’t want to date girls that go to bars and clubs Monday through Sunday.
8.) Tagging Is Not OK
Tagging can be so annoying. Do not tag the guy you have been dating for a month in the photos you took your third date in. You can wait to do this when the time comes.
9.) Facebook Is Not An Affirmation Wall
I am all about the positive affirmations, dreams, and goals BUT avoid the self help talk on your wall. Try not to be such a fruit cake and say things like, “One day I want a strong man that can handle me,” or “I can’t wait until I find the guy of my dreams.” Keep your personal journal entries to yourself.
10.) Easy On The “Likes”
Once you and the guy you are dating become actual “Facebook Friends,” please do not “Like” everything that he posts.
The Other Hubby